We want to split up a measure and the pieces should not—roughly speaking—overlap.1
A measure is concentrated on a set if the measure on the complement of the set is zero. A signed or complex measure is concentrated on a set if its variation is concentrated on the set.2
Two measures (or signed or complex measures) are mutually singular if there exists a set on which one is concentrated and on whose complement the other is concentrated. In other words, there exists a decomposition of the space into two sets such that one measure if concentrated on one piece and the other measure is concentrated on the other piece.
Let $(X, \mathcal{A} )$ be a measurable space and let $\mu $ be a measure. Then $\mu $ is concentrated on a set $C \in \mathcal{A} $ if $\mu (X - C) = 0$. If $\nu $ is a signed or complex measure, then $\nu $ is concentrated on $C \in \mathcal{A} $ if $\abs{\nu }$ is concentrated on $C$; in which case $\abs{\nu }(X - C) = 0$.
Let $\mu $ and $\nu $ be measures on $(X, \mathcal{A} )$. Then $\mu $ and $\nu $ are mutually singular if there exists a set $A \in \mathcal{A} $ so that $\mu $ is concentrated on $A$ and $\nu $ is concentrated on $X - A$. We denote that two measures are singular by $\mu \perp \nu $, read aloud as “mu perp nu”.